I’m in bed sick again today. I’ve had a few of them the past couple of weeks – nothing serious, thankfully!
While I was laying here I thought that this might be a great opportunity to share with you a book that changed my life and that was probably the catalyst for me deciding to spend so much more time in my garden. It was a book that came to me quite by chance and one that I urge you to seek out and take the time to read: In Praise Of Slow by Carl Honoré.
Like many people, I suddenly became aware that I had lost a great chunk of my young years because I had allowed myself to get stuck on that great treadmill of life. It was not too long after I had this epiphany that I was wandering out of my local library and spotted this book on the $1 rack. I had a quick look at the blurb and got an overwhelming sense that the universe was sending me a message. With that, I walked straight back into the library and bought the book.
So, there I was reading this book thinking “yes, yes Carl, yes!”. Fact: Its all common sense stuff. However, we rarely (if ever) take the time to think about the repercussions of our actions because we’re all so busy trying to rush on to the next thing.
Well, I have been taking it slow (or slow-er than I was going before) but, it hasn’t been easy. What I have found is that it’s quite often the people around you that, inadvertently, keep pushing you back towards the treadmill. I have tried to encourage the people around me to step back a bit and think about how a bit of slowness could enrich their lives. Sadly though, they’re more often than not too busy to stop and think about my advice, let alone let me finish my sentence. LOL!
I have learnt a lot from my own reflections and the observations I have made of the people around me. The key things are:
The majority of us have a tendency to overburden ourselves.
We can’t do all of the things all of the time.
We can, unconsciously, influence people to live at a faster pace than they may be comfortable with.
We can, unconsciously, take up too much of other peoples time.
We can slow down and still do the things we want to do. How? Consciousness, Patience & Control.
I have a girlfriend that I admire so very much. She does what suits her and she doesn’t rush about for the sake of people around her. She is a tranquil woman and it reflects in everything she does. I always find it funny when I hear people criticising her for not doing things the way they would. The fact is that she is happy and she gets everything done. Interestingly, I have never heard her say “I wish I had time to…[insert activity here]”. Something I find her critics saying quite often.
So, I thought I’d add the link here to Carl’s Ted talk about the concept of “slowness”. I hope that you have a chance to sit down and listen to what he has to say. It may change your life too!